parents just don’t understand
hello all, it’s been a long time! i guess the weeks have flown by since i’ve been able to blog and maybe that’s just part of summer. if i can find a way slow down time i’ll let you know! in the meantime, i’ve been working hard to get ready for a move and my next trip. i always start the season with family time and this year it was to celebrate my parents’ 50th wedding anniversary.
of course they wanted to have a celebration so a garden party was in order. mom and dad did the hardest part, repairing the house they’ve had for over 40 years which is close to 150 years old. they worked on everything from the roof to the gazebo, the porch, cushions, windows, stairs and doors. they painted and stained and sealed, hammered and sewed and sowed. a couple days before the party my nephew adam and i came to help and together we happily took orders cleaning and weeding and planting and tenting, decorating and cleaning up once it was all over. our family and friends were there and it was a smashing success. there are a just couple of slides mom found from their wedding day, and we realized it’s time to get all the old pics together and preserved before they all start fading away.
being home with them for the past couple days has given us time to reminisce. we talked about their early dreams as a young couple, how they consciously envisioned their lives and how they worked hard to make it a reality. it got me thinking about all they’ve done and the lives they lead to this day. i wanted to share some of the things they’ve implemented in an effort to try to do the same!
they don’t waste: very little gets thrown out. granted that makes for a crowded attic but it’s a source of endless entertainment for the kids when they come over. they literally use almost everything that comes into the house. trash compacting: they have a stow-away compactor to smush all their plastics to make them as flat as possible. composting: they have what we fondly refer to as the ‘mulch pile’ out back where all food scraps go back to the earth and the dirt is used in the garden. the field: they have about an acre that was flat as a baseball field but they’ve let it grow and now it’s a thick jungle forest. they taught us to read labels, check for colors, additives and preservatives. from the age of 3 and 4, my parents began traveling with my brother and me, while mom was pregnant with a third and together we traveled the world. they built a home with a structure where we could count on dinner together each night and filled it with love and souvenirs, created a floor to ceiling library of books and records, taught us about art, philosophy, food, and other cultures. they opened us up to avant garde ideas, told us to be free thinkers and helped us develop our own styles.
as we sit around the kitchen table and talk about it all, they seem to remember it all fondly but vaguely, not as intensely or vividly as i do. maybe they just don’t understand how strong an influence they had as parents, how we were hungry for their knowledge and the worlds they were opening up to us. i’m not a parent but as a child i can say that parents, your kids want to learn everything you know, so show them your beautiful world, the one you want them to remember when you’re sitting around the kitchen table one day looking back. it’s priceless and i thank you mom and dad for taking the time to make your lives so much about our family. happy 50th, and here’s to 50 more!